Have you ever been in an ‘out of control’ family discussion (commonly known as an argument). Families who do this (and mine is no exception) have become intolerant of differences and have lost the ability to listen without feeling emotionally attached to the outcome. They lose respect for one another.
Being thrown “under the bus” is a horrible experience. It causes doubt, mistrust, confusion, and emotional entanglement to everyone involved. It also raises stress levels, which cuts back on proper sleep, exercise, and can lead to destructive habits. Is emotional discord ever really productive or helpful?
Moving to a more controlled and respectful exchange will always yield greater results and preserve harmony. Here are some simple questions that can help those involved to stand back and see the situation with more objectivity and without emotional attachment.
- What simple, focused question can provide you better clarity?
- Where is the source of this disruption?
- How is this issue fueled?
- From where does the discord come from?
- How do we establish better communications habits?
And the list goes on. Walking away is not a solution. Utilizing a professional resource when facing and addressing difficult issues will help set stronger boundaries and align personal perspectives.
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